JASON TAN
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This trip was a much-needed getaway for my wife and me, a chance to slow down, spend time together, and take in Kyoto at a different pace. And there was no better place for it than Shiraume, a ryokan that’s all about tradition, history, and genuine hospitality.
When we arrived, Tomoko-chan welcomed us and immediately shared the story behind Shiraume’s design. The zigzag corridors were built as escape routes, and the low ceilings made it hard for samurai to swing their katanas indoors. Every detail had a purpose, and you could tell this place had history.
Over the next few days, she shared even more stories. She told us how, in the past, young women weren’t allowed to show their faces and had to rely on their beautiful hair to attract suitors, which is why seaweed symbolizes good hair.
A particularly enlightening discussion revolved around the regional differences in preparing unagi. In tokyo region, chefs cut eel from the back to avoid associations with seppuku (ritual suicide), reflecting the profound impact of samurai culture on culinary practices. As for the unagi that we had for dinner, it was “harakiried”.
The culinary journey at Shiraume was exceptional. Meticulously prepared kaiseki dinners and hearty Japanese breakfasts showcased Kyoto’s seasonal ingredients, each dish telling a story of local tradition.
Then there was Mr. Oh, the crane, named after a famous baseball player known for his one-legged batting stance. This bird apparently follows a strict daily routine, having breakfast at Shiraume, lunch next door, and dinner at a Chinese restaurant.
But the story that really stuck with me was Tomoko-chan’s own journey. Shiraume has been passed down from mother to daughter for generations, and growing up, she felt a lot of pressure to take over. She wanted to find her own path and even tried to walk away from it. But over time, her love for Kyoto brought her back, and she eventually took over Shiraume to continue the family legacy.
Now, she has a daughter of her own, and instead of forcing her to stay, she’s encouraged her to explore the world and figure out what she wants. But it’s clear that deep down, she hopes her daughter will return one day, just like she did, to carry on Shiraume’s story.
Hearing this made me reflect on my own parenting. I realized that holding on too tightly to my kids, especially when it comes to their studies, might not be what they need. Tomoko-chan’s approach showed me that sometimes, the best thing a parent can do is let go and trust that their kids will find their own way. And maybe, just like Shiraume, what’s truly meant to be will always come back.
What made this trip even more special was that we got to experience snow. Watching Kyoto slow down under a layer of snow made the whole experience feel even more unique.
With its calm, unhurried pace, Shiraume was the perfect place to reset and take a break from the fast-paced life in Singapore. The great hospitality, the interesting stories, and the unexpected snowfall made it an experience I won’t forget.