Yolanda Lindsay
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For years, I’ve battled with my faith, struggling to reconcile the teachings of love, compassion, and forgiveness with the way those values are sometimes absent in practice. I’ve been trying to return to the Catholic Church, to embrace my faith fully, and to instill those values in my children.
But now, after what has happened to my daughters, I find myself questioning everything again.
A system that claims to work in the name of God—a system that preaches empathy and inclusion—has failed my family so deeply. My youngest daughter, Amina, a three-year-old with special needs, was dismissed from her Catholic school under the Archdiocese of New York. Despite my transparency and repeated pleas for support, the school refused to help her. When the situation became challenging, they decided to remove her instead of providing the compassion and care she deserved.
Then came the shocking revelation that my oldest daughter, Avery, was withdrawn from the same school without my consent. Two children, two lives disrupted—not because of wrongdoing on their part, but because an institution that I trusted turned its back on us.
How does a system that claims to embody the love of Christ justify such harm? Where is the empathy for struggling families? Where is the compassion for children who need help, not rejection?
This isn’t just a personal wound; it’s a crisis of faith. How can an institution that claims to serve God abandon the very principles it preaches? How can it claim to love its congregation while failing to protect its most vulnerable members?
I am heartbroken and angry. I want to believe in the goodness of the Church, but right now, I feel betrayed. My family deserved better. My daughters deserved better.
To those in the Church and beyond: Faith isn’t just about words—it’s about action. Love and compassion must be more than ideals; they must be lived out, especially for those in need.
I still want to believe. But the Church has to show me—and families like mine—that it’s worthy of that belief. Until then, I remain in doubt, struggling to find the light in this darkness.