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*The Trouble with a "Queer Friendly" Homeless Shelter*
"It's unfair to gaykeep but my quality of life is seriously threatened here."
i have now come to fully understand why i feel so politically unsafe at Jazzie's Place, the "nation's first LGBTQ inclusive homeless shelter". first of all, they are a *dormitory* amongst 3 others as part of Delores Street Community Services[1]. The other 3 dorms are 100% cishet males who have no idea how to talk respectfully to a womxn, let alone a queer person. The staff will tell you "we are coed" and that is dangerous wishful thinking, because it is used to dismiss my diversity outcries. they came into "lgbtq friendliness" naively during a time when no one else was publicly guaranteeing that. The hype probably scored them some serious dough in 2015 [2].
They later found out in practice that it is unfair to gatekeep who is and isnt a transgender, homosexual, bisexual, queer. however, it remains that there is an obvious spectrum of self identification, willing participation in queer politics, and an ability to get along within the queer community without regularly giving off vibes of closeted homophobia or closeted transphobia. There are people in here who are working extra hard to keep their bed reservations, but they do so with a lack of refined perception that could only be seen by someone who actually does have a gaydar... or a transdar for that matter. and although we can see it clearly, staff cannot, and neither can the imposters. And so, empowered by the dunning-kruger bandwagon [3], the shelter staff is forced to allow fakers to contaminate our space, use our resources, and step on our toes in a most intimate way.
Staff seem to have grown now apathetic to the problem, and trying to just be practical about it. most staff percieve my outcries as overdramatic rants. i feel constantly dismissed and devalidated by staff about issues of safety, basic respect, and bodily integrity in that space. i find myself suffering from women's isolation. during times when there is une femme staff, i try to rely on her so that i can ignore les hommes. so there exist gaping misogyny and gaping lgbtq-gatekeeping vulnerabilities in Jazzie's place.
By now, they have been far outpaced by orgs like TransThrive, TGIJP, and even the young THC in Berkeley. Those are groups that arent afraid to use the word "radical." Jazzie's Dormitory-Amongst-Hungry-Cishet-Men needs to denounce their LGBTQ-friendly status in public before i write the equivalent of "The Jungle" and put them on center stage as a primary offender. But then who would even bother to self-denounce?
in the meantime, the small number of trans women who pass-as-trans have had to form a rather scrutinizing click of "real ones" just for the sake of peer support, if not basic sanity. yes, it's incredibly sad that we have been forced to gaykeep, but i am beginning to accept that this is the reality of the security problem. my 90 day bed reservation ends on august 10. after that, i will be forced to go back to 1-night reservations while i wait on a 1-month queue to get into something closer to Compton's District. Something like "a womxn's place" or the womxn's floor at NextDoor. Shelters' publicly advertised LGBTQ alliance at large, as well as their feminist safety guarantees need to be governed by a third party standards body. That body does not exist. Let's create it.
footnotes
1 . https://www.dscs.org/housing
2 . https://www.sfexaminer.com/photo-galleries/grand-opening-of-the-new-lgbt-homeless-shelter-jazzies-place/nggallery/image/lgbt-shelter-24/
3 . https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect
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