Lisa D.
Yelp
Take your time and open your mind - Trapeze is the safest and easiest place to experiment with relationship boundaries and fantasies. Everyone we've met in this lifestyle has professed an huge improvement in their relationship after exploring more openness. We're giving it 5 stars because it was the front-door to an entirely new and awesome relationship together. Here's our first experience at Trapeze, because we assume if you're reading a Yelp review, you are looking at going for the first time.
My husband and I we're so busy parenting & working for the past 18 years, we had completely disconnected. Faced with the empty nest, we looked at life beyond parenting, and conversations led to us rekindling a virtually non-existent sex life. Things heated up at home for a few months, and then my husband suggested we check out this "club". Our plan was to just go, watch, and maybe make out in a dark corner. We chose to go on a Saturday night because they don't allow single men.
I was very nervous the night we arrived. We took a bottle of Titos with us, gave it to the front-desk who delivered it to the bar. We registered and payed the fees, and they let us in.
Again, it was terrifying...I tried not to make eye contact with anyone. I was having massive case of "stranger danger" amongst the scary swingers. We went to the bar, and each quickly downed a couple vodka tonics. The bartenders were amazingly friendly. We then walked around to check out the club. There was a buffet that was serving prime rib and amazing looking dishes. I couldn't eat (but I can now confirm the food is shockingly good considering it's a sex club). We stood near the dance floor and began people-watching. It was such a sexy scene - mostly aged 30-50 with the majority being mid-40s like us. The women were mostly dressed in short mini-dresses and then men were either in slacks or stylish jeans and button-down shirts.
There was an indescribable energy in the room. As we watched, we started talking to nice couple - she was in healthcare and he was in sales - completely dissolved our belief that everyone there was some sort of pornstar or stripper. Actually, as most of the patrons looked like our neighbors, yet confidently wore sexy attire, the vibe was way sexier. The couple offered to give us a tour of the rest of the club. We all went back to the locker room where people were undressing and wrapping themselves in towels. Thank goodness for the cocktails - I was nervous to disrobe in a coed locker room. We then followed them into the play area. There was another bar, and we asked to have our vodka brought back from the front. The couple walked us around, showed us the different rooms and play areas, and explained the rules for the "open-play" areas. "There's rules!" - I started to relax. The couple then sat on a bench and started having sex with each other. It was shocking. My husband started getting frisky with me, but I was feeling "exposed", and we asked if this couple would walk back to a more private area. We found another bench and my husband and I started enjoying ourselves while watching the other couple. The woman (gorgeous) asked if she could kiss me. I thought "why not?". She then asked her husband, and my husband if it was ok. In other words, she made it clear to everyone knew it was ok. This helped me relax even more. In retrospect, they knew we were first-timers and used this communication style to put me at ease, ensure consent, and prevent any drama. My husband was in shock while this woman and I had even more sexy fun together. I was shocked as well - I'd never done anything like this, but in that moment, it was fun and sensual with no pressure from the couple to do anything else. After a while, we went home, and for the next week, our sex life was electric.
Since this night, we've been a few more times.
There's a another club within Trapeze called the Diamond Club. It's a 5-star club with room attendants and made-to-order food. It's 2x the door fee and worth it. The crowd has a lot of regulars and can sometimes feel cliquish, but just say hi - everyone is friendly if you make an effort. The existence of the Diamond Club seems to split the demographics like coach & business class in an international flight. So while the main club might seem to have an average clientele, there's an entirely different crowd in the Diamond Club. The good news is that most Diamond Club patrons come out to the main dance floor and mix with everyone. Note that after 1:00 am, there's an influx of people coming from neighboring bars / strip clubs. They're mostly people there to get down with their spouse/gf in an open environment.
Tip: Go early before it gets crowded. The staff can give you a tour if it's early enough.