Karrie C.
Yelp
Let me set the scene for you: it's Sunday night at 9 PM in September. The bar and restaurant is pretty packed. On the big screen, they have the US Open Championship match on with sound and several other TVs playing football. Lots of tennis fans in the house cheering on Nadal and buying drinks. One white guy in a Redskins jersey (this is a Redskins bar, mind you, but they played at 1 PM earlier in the day) gets up in front of the entire bar and lobbies to turn off tennis and put football on the big screen. The crowd ignores the guy in the jersey, who is obviously very intoxicated, and continues to watch the rest of the tennis match.
As the night goes on, I see the drunk guy and his friend now move from a table to the bar. He seems to be friends with the bartender, as he is getting drinks faster than anyone else is. After seeing him make a lewd gesture toward a female earlier in the night, I am keenly aware of this guy at this point in the evening. The tennis match ends, and the bar clears out significantly. (Turns out people actually do like tennis but that is besides the point.) As this guy continues to drink at the bar, I notice he is getting close to a woman at the bar who is watching football and minding her own business. She also seems like she has been drinking, but is not doing anything other than watching the TV with her back to the guy. I counted a number of times the man at the bar came physically in contact with the woman who asked him repeatedly to stop and leave her alone. This was directly in front of both the bartender and the manager. I am seated in the back of the restaurant and can see all of this unfold as the bar has grown more quiet. The man keeps antagonizing the woman to the point that she gets up and has words with the man, again asking him to stop touching her and leave her alone. It's at this point that the bartender and the manager ask HER to leave the bar. She is escorted out and the manager closes the door behind her.
I use the restroom and try to understand what I've just seen. The woman did not appear to have done anything wrong and furthermore, the guy had been causing trouble with several patrons in the hour and a half I'd been there watching all of this go down. It didn't make any sense. I decided to ask the manager, who happened to be the same person that sat us down at our table, what had happened so I could piece it all together. The conversation went as follows:
Me: "Hi. Are you the manager here?"
Manager: "Yes."
Me: "Just curious but...why did that woman get kicked out?"
Manager: "She was intoxicated. She was biting her nails. She came in intoxicated and she had to leave."
Me: "Ok. I can't speak to if she was intoxicated or not but I did just want to point out that I saw the guy in the Redskins jersey repeatedly touch her when she asked him to stop. He is also very clearly intoxicated and he was not asked to leave."
Manager: "I didn't see him do that. I just got here 30 mins ago." (Note: this was, as you will read above, the same guy who sat us at our table 90 minutes ago, so this was in fact, a lie.)
Me: "Okay, maybe you didn't see it, but I watched the bartender watch it happen, and I am also telling you, as a customer, that I watched it happen, and unwanted advances to women are not okay. I also then heard the bartender make a racial slur as the woman was kicked out of the bar. He said...'I don't know what the hell she was..maybe Colombian?"
Manager: "No... I asked my bartender if she was Indian and he responded maybe she was Colombian."
Me: "What should that matter? Why would you need to know her ethnicity? Is that why you would kick someone out of the bar?"
Manager: (growing angry now with what he knows I heard): "No...I see what you're trying to do here. She was intoxicated and we asked her to leave. She came in that way and I haven't been watching this man. Now that you've pointed this out I will watch him."
Me: "I've seen you watching these interactions. I've seen this man be disrespectful to several people and women specifically multiple times tonight (including my table, where he made inappropriate gestures after the woman was kicked out, which I immediately shut down.) I haven't seen you take any action with this man. He's on your watch now."
At this point, we leave the bar. I am at a loss of what to do as I clearly was not getting through to the manager or bartender, who both seem like sexists and possibly racists (did I mention this is a Redskins bar... talk about a racially insensitive franchise ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ )
So what do I do? I write this Yelp review hoping it will help steer at least one person away from eating their shitty food, drinking their flat beer, and witnessing their toxic masculinity in person like I had to.
The Q train now runs on 2nd ave. There are PLENTY of other places to take your dollar on the Upper East Side. Go elsewhere. Go literally anywhere else. This place royally fucking sucks.