"When you’re in Oakland and want a sexy date night spot, all roads point to Friends And Family. The women- and queer-owned cocktail bar is perpetually bathed in a soft pink glow that makes everyone look (and feel) hot. Come here with someone you like and make eyes at each other over rose-infused cocktails, buttery yaki onigiri, and a slice of truly beautiful carrot cake. Even if you’re not here with a special someone, you might be after hitting up one of their queer speed dating events, vintage day markets, or bingo nights (keep an eye on their Instagram for details)." - lani conway, julia chen 1